We all look at what we look like, find the flaws and obsess over them, try hard to make ourselves look "perfect", whether it be through make-up, diets, exercise, cosmetic surgery, etc. But what about the good things about us that make us who we are? What about our qualities? Why aren't these things that we focus on, even remember?
I'm friendly, I'm kind and polite, and I'm supportive. Why don't I remember this? I'm fairly smart, and I can be funny. Why don't I remember this? I pride myself on my morals, knowing my own mind, and my self-respect. Why don't I remember this? I am a nice, good person! Yet all that will go out the window on those days when I notice how twig-like my arms are, just how knobbly my knees are, when I can't wear the clothes I want because I can't fill them. Why?
Lisa Cox, motivational speaker and author of Does My Bum Look Big in this Ad?, said in an interview recently with UP! Magazing, "Beauty is… not a physical commodity. Confidence, humility, self-respect, honesty, intelligence and modesty are absolutely stunning!"
I know exactly what she means; I can look at people I know, see how wonderful they are, and be so glad to know them, no matter what they look like. Yet when it comes to myself, it's a different story. And I know I'm not the only one.
What is so wrong with just being happy with who we are? Haven't we always been told it's what's on the inside that counts?
I'll leave you with these quotes from North of Beautiful by Justina Chen Headley that really struck a chord with me:
'I had always felt a foreigner in this made-up Land of Beautiful, and it was a relief to see Extreme Beauty for what it really was: fake, make-believe, insubstantial.' (p349)
'Let the glossy spreads have their heart-stopping, head turning kind of beauty. Give me the heart-filled beauty instead. Jolie laide, that's what I would choose. Flawed, we're truly interesting, truly memorable, and yes, truly beautiful.' (p355)
Thoughts please. Why do you think we simply forget what wonderful people we are?