tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2381533012764037154.post4790949854397867806..comments2024-03-04T11:59:16.710+00:00Comments on Once Upon a Bookcase: Discussion: The Lack of Female Masturbation in YAJohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02828378728962868575noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2381533012764037154.post-37731591437383164592015-11-15T20:36:48.922+00:002015-11-15T20:36:48.922+00:00It's been such a long time since I read Then A...It's been such a long time since I read Then Again, Maybe I Won't that I can't remember the wet dream scene/s. But Blume is pretty awesome for giving us insights into such things. But her books were written such a long time ago. We need more for today's teens, who might not necessarily pick up Blume's books.<br /><br />I've not seen Single White Female, but when I have seen movies showing female masturbation, it's used to titilate the audience (mainly the male members of the audience, I would guess at, because of sexist our society is), rather than to show a woman enjoying her body.<br /><br />I really think this is something we need more of. I hope publishers and authors realise it.Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02828378728962868575noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2381533012764037154.post-83719276380524602532015-11-15T17:41:02.845+00:002015-11-15T17:41:02.845+00:00A few sentences in, I was all, "Deenie!"...A few sentences in, I was all, "Deenie!" and then you mentioned her. Judy Blume also did the emotional side of getting your period, and everything I know about wet dreams I learned from her "Then Again, Maybe I Won't." <br /><br />Your point about YA lit being able to normalize female masturbation is so true--I was in my mid-twenties before I ever heard another woman talk about masturbating, but Deenie really did make me assume it was widely done. It is kind of weird to think that girls growing up today might not read any books that include it. I've also noticed that in movies, female masturbation is often done to show depravity. In Single White Woman, the creepy murdering girl spies on her roomie and boyfriend having sex, then goes off to masturbate. Guys jerking off are usually played for laughs (or, sometimes, pathos), but again, there's an assumption that guys do this all the time, but women...only if they're super weird and creepy. <br /><br />I hadn't thought about this before, but now I'm all ticked off. Wendyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06296827820807569574noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2381533012764037154.post-66399049105743363622015-11-15T14:06:43.201+00:002015-11-15T14:06:43.201+00:00THISSSS! So much yes to this! We need it more in b...THISSSS! So much yes to this! We need it more in books! Again, I will say: why not help normalising such things by putting them in YA?<br /><br />Thanks for stopping by!Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02828378728962868575noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2381533012764037154.post-23185343454183655152015-11-15T14:02:54.792+00:002015-11-15T14:02:54.792+00:00Yessss! Exactly! Let girls enjoy their bodies in Y...Yessss! Exactly! Let girls enjoy their bodies in YA, it's perfectly normal!<br /><br />Thanks for stopping by!Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02828378728962868575noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2381533012764037154.post-3270609649021833242015-11-15T13:56:43.920+00:002015-11-15T13:56:43.920+00:00I'm really surprised by how so many people hav...I'm really surprised by how so many people have never thought about it before. Not a criticism, just surprising to me :)<br /><br />Hope you enjoy the recs! :)Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02828378728962868575noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2381533012764037154.post-81896337726804010052015-11-15T13:55:55.025+00:002015-11-15T13:55:55.025+00:00That's so true, and so wrong. Women are sexual...That's so true, and so wrong. Women are sexual beings too! We're alowed to enjoy sex, and enjoy our own bodies, but apparently this is not ok in society, and makes it's way to books too? It's so sad.<br /><br />"An added layer to round out a realistic character" - YES!Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02828378728962868575noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2381533012764037154.post-87758575629699464462015-11-15T13:41:31.481+00:002015-11-15T13:41:31.481+00:00Right? It doesn't hurt anyone not to masturbat...Right? It doesn't hurt anyone <i>not</i> to masturbate if they don't know about it, but if girls are, and they think it's something shameful, it needs to be normalised. And what better way than in YA?<br /><br />Thanks for stopping by! Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02828378728962868575noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2381533012764037154.post-65324131460655873372015-11-15T13:30:46.378+00:002015-11-15T13:30:46.378+00:00I really think this needs to be more prominent, as...I really think this needs to be more prominent, as well as discussions of periods etc. and all other things that are natural in teen bodies. Too many teenage girls think of their body's natural impulses and needs as disgusting. Julia Emberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17753714413742116068noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2381533012764037154.post-72180279070896246522015-11-14T21:38:02.682+00:002015-11-14T21:38:02.682+00:00I have to confess that I never gave this any thoug...I have to confess that I never gave this any thought before, but you make some really good points - especially about the differences in the way that male and female masturbation are handled. It's so true that girls are given the impression that this is something "normal" for boys but not for them. I agree that if it fit in with the story, why not show it?<br /><br />Nicole @ <a href="http://feedyourfictionaddiction.com" rel="nofollow">Feed Your Fiction Addiction</a>Nicole @ Feed Your Fiction Addictionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08637114079800138680noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2381533012764037154.post-72745398386555910522015-11-14T02:45:35.885+00:002015-11-14T02:45:35.885+00:00Wow, this is a really surprising discussion post! ...Wow, this is a really surprising discussion post! I've never thought about this, but now that I think about it, I haven't read any either. I'll check out those recs though. :)Jess I.https://www.blogger.com/profile/14306744829113970730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2381533012764037154.post-64096493480784786232015-11-11T16:02:08.962+00:002015-11-11T16:02:08.962+00:00I never really thought about it. I think that fema...I never really thought about it. I think that female sexuality still make people uncomfortable. Women are not suppose to like sex. We are suppose to fall in love and show that love through sex with our partner. Only men are suppose to want that physical release with nothing else attached to it. <br /><br />I wouldn't mind if I read a book that had a masturbation scene in it. That would be an added layer to round out a realistic character.<br /><br />http://worthreadingit.blogspot.com/2015/11/2015-discussion-challenge-wizard-of-oz.htmlBunnitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12134290073030686755noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2381533012764037154.post-61285405073851396222015-11-11T13:22:16.835+00:002015-11-11T13:22:16.835+00:00To be completely honest, I hadn't thought abou...To be completely honest, I hadn't thought about this at all. I am pretty sure I didn't "really" masturbate until I was in my 20s, but I felt like such a late bloomer there. I was shocked to discover what I had been missing. So YES, I think there should be mention of masturbation if it fits the character/situation. I have a teenage daughter and I don't mind if she reads about it. Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11205709973717833264noreply@blogger.com